14 Mar Getting Back on the Horse: Why I’m Saying No to Self-Doubt (& You Should Too!)
I settle in and double check that my keyboard still works.
*click, click* Is this thing on? Phew, all good.
Are the folders I’ve created for Matt Black Ink even on my Desktop anymore?
Yep, right where I left them.
Will I even remember how to build a new post, source images and share it with my community?
Looks like I’ve yet to lose my WordPress touch.
After what feels like an eternity, I’m back in the saddle and excited to create new content for clients, my community and maybe most importantly – myself.
To attribute my hiatus to “Writer’s Block” would be a weak cop out to the real underlying problem at work here: I simply didn’t believe that I had what it takes.
Call that pathetic, call it surprising, maybe it’s a mix of both those things. But I’m sure you’ve been there too.
So how did you manage? There’s probably a million different strategies which all depend on the person and the circumstances they face. But I finally realized that the only way to see the forest for the trees is to just do.
I recognized that no matter how many books on content marketing and blogs I read, regardless of how many successful writers I spoke with and despite mapping out a diverse and realistic strategy, I wasn’t doing what needed to be done – which was writing.
And it was all due to the fact that I didn’t think I was good enough.
But here’s why I’m breaking up with self-doubt and urge you to do the same:
You ARE capable and you CAN do whatever you want
I’m not a believer in everybody getting a trophy… but I stand firm in my convictions that we’re all wired for success as human beings. Nothing is impossible anymore.
Sure, sometimes the wires get tangled (or even cut), and the Universe has a funny way of making things more difficult than they need to be occasionally. But with the advancements in technology being what they are, the ability to connect with anybody and everybody around the world, the chance to take Ivy League-quality courses while you’re sitting at home in your underwear… you’ve got so many of the opportunities you need right under your nose.
And life isn’t fair – we’re reminded of this on a daily basis just by looking around. But that doesn’t mean you can’t overcome whatever odds you’re facing and follow suit. If someone else did it, why can’t you? Stop looking for reasons you can’t and start thinking about why you have to make whatever it is happen.
At the end of the day, it’s on you (and don’t forget, your competition is probably thinking this way too) to identify, nurture, chase and execute with every ounce of your being.
Successful people are too busy to feel sorry for you
Whomever you admire as a successful person – and I’m not just alluding to financials when I say this – is constantly working to improve and get even better.
Maybe you envy somebody for how easily they can network and seem to always find their way to the best and most exciting opportunities. Or maybe it feels like no matter what you do, things just don’t pan out for you but they do for others.
Well I’m here to burst your bubble.
The hard truth is that 99.999999999% of the time, it’s because they’ve worked their ass off to open up doors, earn helping hands and don’t stop until they meet or exceed their laser-focused goals.
I’m not saying this from experience, because I’m not there yet… but many successful people will tell you that when you get to the top of the mountain (whatever that is in your eyes), you’ll feel even more compelled to keep climbing.
Nobody’s RSVPing to pity parties anymore, folks. It’s too tough out there and there’s not enough time in a day to try and help others when they aren’t willing to help themselves.
I’m better than that
I only say this because I am… I’ve already proved it to myself, and self-doubt can’t take that away from me (or you!)
- I created a column for a golf industry corporate magazine that didn’t exist prior to my arrival and that readers anxiously awaited each month.
- I turned an internship into a brand new, full-time permanent position in the professional sports industry.
- I built a program for a Major League Baseball team that gave 30+ people a foot in the door in pro sports, as well as helped deliver a world-class Guest Experience for fans.
- I started my own copywriting business and landed multiple clients in my first year of operation with relative ease.
The truth is, I’ve already shown that I’m more than capable… so it’s about time I started acting like it.
If you don’t believe in yourself, why should others, right? The most important battle going on for anybody who has struggled to maintain positive, healthy habits in their business or life in general is happening between the ears.
I guarantee it.
Spend some time looking in the mirror and recommit to the idea that you can achieve your goals. “Show your work,” if you will, and remind yourself of all the great things you’ve accomplished u[ to this point. Think about the lives you’ve changed and the impact that your efforts have had on others. If you need any reassuring, shoot me a text or an email… because I know I can help.
How do you battle self-doubt? Tell us about a time you struggled to believe in yourself and what you did to overcome it. Please share your thoughts with me in the Comments section below or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.